5 Signs That Your Relationship Is Sucking The Life Out Of You

5 Signs That Your Relationship Is Sucking The Life Out Of You

5 Signs That Your Relationship Is Sucking The Life Out Of You
Nobody enters into a relationship with the intention of becoming a dejected shell of the person they once were. In fact, most people choose their mates with at least the subconscious hope of forming a relationship that will make them a better person. But, no matter the intention, unhealthy relationships happen.

Violence and verbal abuse aren’t the only ways to cause harm in a relationship. It can also be accomplished through simple manipulation. The manipulator might not even realize they’re doing it, but that’s no excuse to stay in the relationship. Relationships are give and take, and manipulators are takers.

Here are a few signs to help recognize when a relationship is sucking you dry.

You Abandon What Once Made You Happy

The suffering partner in an unhealthy relationship will make it their main goal to please their partner. It becomes such a difficult task that they commit all their energy to achieving this goal, leaving no time or interest for friends, family, or hobbies.

You’re Always the One to Apologize

As stated before, they live to please their partner, even if it means apologizing for things they shouldn’t have to be sorry for. Manipulators use guilt trips to get their way, and after a while, the feeling of guilt becomes an instinct.

You Suffer From Low Self-Esteem

The manipulated person will begin to feel like they aren’t good enough for their partner. They focus on their faults and how they could be better, leaving them feeling down on themselves.

You Can’t Say No

Again, this ties back to the need to please their partner, but not only do they want to please them, they dread the consequences of denying them—which ties back to the guilt.

You are No Longer Yourself

All of these reactions put together create someone who constantly feels the need to walk on egg shells. They’re careful about everything they do or say for fear of messing up. Consequently, they become a shell of the person they once were.

It’s hard for people who’ve never experienced this to understand how anyone could stay in this type of relationship. However, it’s a process that happens over time. In the beginning, things are usually great, but once the subtle manipulation begins, anything that goes wrong feels like it must be their fault. They find themselves doing whatever it takes to repair the loss or damage, until they’re a different person altogether. No one should have to change who they are to be with another person. Sometimes the only thing to do is to move on.

7 Things Crazy-In-Love Couples Do

7 Things Crazy-In-Love Couples Do

7 Things Crazy-In-Love Couples Do

Couples often strive to achieve a perfect and happy relationship. Our relationship is in our hands, we should not throw it away calling it fate. We can adopt different habits and change a few things.

Here are 7 of the things happy couples do:

• Spend quality time together

You can’t stay happy without spending some quality time together, this is an important component of a happy love life. When we spend time with our partner we re-energize each other. Plan a date night and stay updated about the events taking place in your partner’s life. It’s special to know about each other’s lives and show concern about their joys and sorrows.

• Satisfying each other’s needs

We may have needs and desires we want our partner to fulfill. The initial months of your partnership often go so well you look for excuses to get naked together, but as time passes it’s important to be aware of what your partner is craving. Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of She Comes First says, “There are two basic sexual types: thrill seekers and comfort seekers.” Thrill seekers crave novelty and are easily bored with familiarity while comfort seekers can be turned on by little things. If you are both the same type it’s easy to fulfill each other’s needs, if you’re not you can communicate and develop new ideas. A sexually happy partner will go the extra mile to keep you happy.

• Plan and work together

Plan your lives so you are able to do the important things that matter in your relationship. Plan your dates, sex life, hang out with friends, and make time for each other. You can mark events on a calendar and try working on some things together, which involves more interaction, things get done quickly and easily. You may start enjoying even mundane tasks!

• Get cozy twice a day

A 20 second hug is considered a healthy hug, it takes 20 seconds for oxytocin, the cuddle hormone, to release in the body. This hormone makes you feel safe and that everything is all right.

• Know your partner’s love language

Everyone has their own gestures and language of love. If you don’t know your partner’s love language yet then ask what it is that you do that makes him feel loved? It can be a lovely dinner, a massage, surprise texts, or a romantic date, find out what makes your partner’s heart beat faster and enjoy.

• Listen patiently

Listening patiently to your partner shows your deep level of caring. Few things are better evidence of love between you than this. Listen to your partner’s stress, feelings, problems, and thoughts to help them feel better and comfortable. One thing your partner wants in downtime is your patience and company.

• Keep cheering each other

Have you ever heard a voice cheering you on and suddenly you start performing better? This is the impact of cheering your partner. Crazy-in-love couples keep motivating each other, praising strengths and helping with weaknesses. Don’t wait for downtime to talk and be supportive.

10 Positive Signs You Are In the Right Relationship

10 Positive Signs You Are In the Right Relationship

10 Positive Signs You Are In the Right Relationship

It can be confusing to decide if we are in the right relationship. It’s important to know that what you are doing is right. How is one sure? We have some hints, see if you can match your relationship to these signs:

• No emotional games

Relationships are difficult when games are played. The love dies and its not worth being in the relationship. If you are lucky enough to be in a game-free relationship you have something good going, keep it up!

• Mutual understanding

Mutual understanding is an important factor in a good relationship. If you share the same feelings and mindset its a good sign that you are in the right relationship. Some examples are if you agree on personal values, kids, careers, and friends.

• You argue

Arguments are fine if not too harsh or frequent. Arguing shows you have strong opinions and stand by them, but at the same time you’re sensible enough to keep it from going to extremes. Never arguing might mean one of you is hiding their feelings which is not good in the long run.

• Intimacy

If your physical relationship is so good that you get a boost from it, that’s a good thing. A partner that boosts your confidence by igniting you from within is worth keeping.

• Respect

Another sign of a good relationship is being respectful of each other. If you respect each other’s feelings and decisions moving forward in a relationship will be easier. When there is no respect you should reconsider your choice of partner.

• Joy and fun

A happy relationship is healthy, if you laugh and have fun together when you go to the movies, to dinner, any other event, or even doing nothing, if you enjoy each other’s humor and being together it’s a sign of a good relationship.

• Being perfect is not necessary

If you are forced to be perfect in everything you’re living in a type of prison where you are supposed to be cautious in your actions, thoughts, and words. If you expect your relationship to be perfect you expect the impossible. A person with flaws may be the right person, you never know!

• You can compromise

If you can compromise on disagreements for the betterment of your relationship you have a good relationship. If you always disagree and argue over who is right or wrong, you need to work on this. If it persists reconsider the match.

• You stop hiding your flaws

Everyone has flaws, but if you are always trying to hide them from your partner to seem perfect then you are perpetuating a myth. A good relationship does not require showing off or pretention. You can be yourself and be loved for who you are.

• Family’s approval

If your partner has been approved by your friends and family you have probably made the right decision. Some people will not be happy no matter whom you choose, but if everyone dislikes him except you, it’s a good sign to move on. If everyone likes your choice then your chances are good for working out.

8 Definite Signs Your Woman Truly Loves You

You heard a lot of I love you , but as you know words are the cheapest and they just come out of their mouth. the real meaning will show when you ask her about something more important like borrowing something valuable! thats the moment you can find out if she feels the love or not!

There are signs you can find out about true loves based on science:

Have you ever catch her smelling your pillow when you are leaving for work! you skipped your shower for couple of times but she still wants to lay next to you and be with you no matter why? This is a big trouble, studies has shown that girls usually use their sense of smell in determining a partner.

8 Definite Signs Your Woman Truly Loves You

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Five Ways to Catch Your Cheating Partner

Five Ways to Catch Your Cheating Partner

Five Ways to Catch Your Cheating Partner

Many people have seen television shows like “Cheaters” that catch people in relationships in the act of cheating. The dramatized nature of cheating in modern society often leads people to suspicion that their significant other may be cheating on them. Catching a partner that you suspect is cheating can be difficult because most people having affairs think of creative ways to cover their tracks. Catching a cheater is a lot like being a detective. It’s important to monitor your significant other in a way that doesn’t potentially ruin the relationship.

Lack of Attention

It is often difficult for someone who is cheating to hold complete attention on two men or women simultaneously. People with jobs, families and hobbies usually find it difficult to strike a balance when things are normal. Relationships are similar to plants. They need to be tended to on a regular basis or they wither.

Does he seem to be spending too much time at work?

Visible Nervousness

People who cheat are often visibly trying to conceal evidence. This is most visible through their behavior.

Does he appear nervous if you try to grab his phone?

Hidden Evidence

Someone who is cheating may make an overt effort to hide evidence.

Is his internet browsing history empty?
Are there blank contacts listed in his phone?

Overt Privacy

It is normal for people in relationships to want to maintain a small amount of privacy. Many people have details about themselves that they wouldn’t share with their significant other because they might be embarrassing. If you notice your boyfriend is intentionally putting locks on his phone and computer, you may have reason to be suspicious.

Does he refuse to share his computer passwords with you?

Does he step into the other room before unlocking his phone?

Shady Communication

Poor communication is another good sign that your relationship may be compromised. Your boyfriend may refuse to tell you where he is going at night or on weekends.

Does he appear distant and hard to communicate with?

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